The Help
23 Jan 2012 Comments Off
It has been a while since I made comments or made a personal reaction on a movie I watched. It does not mean I havent been watching any motion pictures, I have and saw a lot as a matter of fact. I always want to write but as always, procrastination ate me.
This afternoon I watched one of the latest movies released called “The Help”. I really dont have anything important to say only that I remembered the nanny that we were with since I was a year old until I was in high school. She practically raised me and my siblings.
Nanay Denia was and until now is family. Very far from how the people in the old “Ole Miss” treat their help. Before, a maid servant is just somebody you pay to do the chores inside the house, buy the groceries and look after the children while you spend most of your time on activities you deem are more important. Because of the extreme racial discrimination, the people who are financially blessed forget that the help are also people.
Nanay Denia was and until now my second mother. I remember her to be always there with me. Through all kinds of situations I was in when I was younger. Tough and happy times. I can vividly remember one closing exercises in elementary when both of my parents werent there. I didnt have new clothes nor shoes. I wasnt sent to the salon for make-up and hair which was the usual scenario during recognition day. No one but Nanay was there to accompany me and pin me my ribbon.
The help is always there to give a hand. The parents should always keep that in mind. And it is not only the parents that should remember this, the kids who were reared by the nanny should also keep this in mind.
It is very hard for someone to be far from her own family in order to earn money by taking care of another woman’s family. It is hard for someone to be looked down on by other people when all they do is get the job done. It is further heart wrenching for someone to be belittled by the very person they sacrificed all their time with their own family just so they can raise them well.
The help dont just invest time and effort in raising the family, they also invest emotionally. They give care, comfort , and love. I know that Nanay loved us and continues to do so. When she left the house because of some uncontrolled circumstances, she continued to be present in our lives by being there from time to time. She would come and spend a week to visit and at the same time help with all the household chores. I know she wanted to be back. I just wished my parents took her back.
There were postive points in her leaving the house because we then learned how to look after ourselves. But again, I really did wish she got back with us.
While I was writing this piece as well as when I was watching the movie, not just a single drop of tear was shed. There was a lot. I again remembered Nanay. Even there were some situation that hardened parts of my heart and have blocked some beautiful memories, in my hearts of hearts I love my Nanay.
Nanay, how I wish I can really take care of you because I think I have not met the duty of reciprocating all the love that you have given me and my family. The only thing that I can do now is to pray for your health and wish that you are still strong to see us again in the nearest future. Love you Nanay.
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